Failure is a
part of our life. Sometimes the stake is
big, sometimes small. Whatever is at stake, failure isn’t always easy to deal
with. I know there are some people in
the world who can brush off failure like water off a duck’s back but the majority
of us are not so resilient.
Today I want
to share with you guys some ways I deal with/overcome failure.
When I was
younger, I came across a quote from Nelson Mandela - “The greatest glory in living
lies not in never falling, but in rising every
time we fall.”
Wise words from a great man, who has possibly endured the largest of
hardships in the modern world. What’s my
failure of not losing weight/not getting a job/failing an exam/not passing my
driving test in comparison?! I’m not saying
you should compare yourself to others, but more gain perspective. It’ll help you realise in the bigger picture
of your life, this is perhaps not the worst thing that can happen.
I’m a hopeless
perfectionist and it hasn’t always been helpful. I have to consciously reign myself in and
remind myself being a perfectionist isn’t everything. If we never fail, we’d never improve. We’d never persevere and never really know
things that we’re passionate about.
Always take a moment and just think, would it really matter if
everything wasn’t a 100% perfect? I’d
certainly worry less!
Always remember
you’re not the first person who’s failed!
We all fail at some point or another, at something or another. We all experience failure, put it down to
experience, learn from it and move on.
I know this
one is going to sound like a complete cliché, but overcoming failure builds a
lot of courage and confidence.
Overcoming failure is overcoming the fear of failure and this give you
the confidence of stepping out of your comfort zone and trying new things. Who knows, you may find something you love! I’ve felt the crushing feeling of ‘failure’
but over time I’ve realised it built my confidence and the next time I was much
stronger and resilient.
Going
through experiences of failure has taught me that there are things in the world
that I (or anyone) have no control over.
Accepting that has made me realise that sometimes things will happen,
not necessarily because I’ve done something wrong, but because it was an
external factor. Feeling bad about such
situations are completely pointless. For
instance, if you fail a driving test because another driver was reckless, it
has nothing to do with your driving
skills! Blaming yourself for failing in
such situations is detrimental to your progress. Realise that and go forward.
I wanted to
share this as I felt it’d be a good reminder for me. Also, a message for those of you who are
perhaps a little hard on yourself (like me!) – it’s okay!
Let
me know how you deal with obstacles/failures – I’d love to have your
input! Comment below or tweet me @aspiring_london!
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